How To Build A Mindset For Success | Patience
It took me 3 years to be affiliated with my favorite gym clothing company.
It took me another 2 years to become an athlete.
It took me 4 years to join my favorite gaming team.
It took me another 2 years to become a paid employee.
It took me 5 years to build a body I am not even happy with yet.
It is going to take me another 50 years chasing the ‘perfect’ body.
Whatever success you’re chasing, it will never come easy, and it will definitely not come fast.
We all want something in life; maybe you haven’t figured out exactly what yet, but when you do, you will probably want it as fast as possible.
I was impatient once too.
I think craving (success, materialistic stuff) automatically comes with being impatient. I mean, when you were a kid and you wanted that new GameBoy Color, you were not going to wait until your birthday in November to get it, right?
You wanted that GameBoy NOW, because all your friends were playing it. Life is tough sometimes, but I guess it made us realize you can’t just have anything you want right away. Same thing applies to success. Success isn’t achieved easily, and definitely not quickly.
Being patient is a very important aspect of reaching success, because it will prevent you from quitting. The number one reason people quit is because it takes too long to reach whatever goal they are aiming for.
People start going to the gym thinking they will look like that one guy on Instagram (JzpR… he’s dope, you should totally follow him), in like 3 weeks of playing with some weights.
Once they realize it doesn’t work that way, they quit.
They quit because they realize if they want to meet their expectations, they are looking at 5 years’ worth of hard work and dedication. Same thing applies to growing an Instagram for example, or starting a YouTube channel - you don’t just upload a video, expect it to go viral, and get a million subscribers. It just doesn’t work that way.
“Great things don’t come to those who wait for success to come to them, but to those who go out there and get it."
The combination of having the right expectations and patience is very important when you are building your mindset for success. Once you accept the grind, and accept the fact you need to be working your ass off for years to come, you begin to enjoy it.
You start to celebrate small achievements, because you know you have taken another step towards your ‘ultimate success’.
Before you can even define your ‘ultimate success’ you need to reverse engineer what is needed to achieve what you want. Meaning, you need to figure out the steps you need to take in order to reach that success.
In the past 5 years, I have learnt a lot. One thing was that my ‘ultimate success’ ended up being just one of my steps. (see chapter II – Ambition)
Another thing I have learnt is these steps might take a lot longer than expected. This is annoying and hard to accept since, naturally, we all want anything as soon as possible.
It took me a long time to get where I’m at right now, and in the beginning, it was hard for me to be patient. I had to accept not everything is in my control, and sometimes I needed to be patient with others. I always knew in the back of my mind that one day, I would be able to take another step forward, and until that day comes, I need to work extra hard to ensure it will eventually come.
I don’t want to give myself too much credit, but imagine working for 2+ years for something you’re passionate about, but not getting anything in return. That was a very hard time for me, but I knew it would open more doors for me, and eventually, it did.
When I look back at the past 3-5 years, I wouldn’t do anything differently. I took my losses and learnt from them. I accepted my victory’s, even when they were small.
“Overestimate what you can do in a year, underestimate what you can do in a decade.“